Jul 25, 2011

book giveaway (and it's signed)!!! Don't Kill the Birthday Girl


UPDATE: And we have a winner! Congratulations to Beth for winning Sandra's book! Thank you to all for participating. I will be having another giveaway of the book over at my Craft Gossip blog in the upcoming weeks, and I'll be sure to let the decorated cookie readers know. 

Yes, please don't.

Don't Kill the Birthday Girl: Tales from an Allergic Life is a beautifully-written memoir infused with wit and humor from Sandra Beasley on living with severe allergies, that is, living as a being not "designed to survive," as a frustrated nutritionist once told Sandra's 4th-grade class. The book doubles as an important source of practical information about allergies, not only for those who understand the childhood angst of finding a purse that will conceal an EpiPen or for those who parent a child with allergies, but for anyone interested in the confusing and growing allergic world. Or for anyone who adores a memoir with a voice that compels you to keep turning pages.

Sandra is allergic to dairy, egg, soy, beef, shrimp, pine nuts, cucumbers, cantaloupe, honeydew, mango, macadamias, pistachios, cashews, swordfish, and mustard, a new allergy discovered almost every year of her thirty-some years of life. The title refers to a mantra of Sandra's mother, a fearful leader forced to navigate a minefield of edible deathtraps to keep her child alive, who would warn Sandra's birthday guests to stand clear after the ritualistic consumption of toxic, frosting-topped cake, "Now, don't kill the birthday girl."  This book gives us privileged entry into the mind of someone who relies on an ever-present hyper-awareness necessary for survival in such a fascinating way, that upon putting the book down, even readers without allergies will find themselves suddenly consumed by a thoughtfulness about every bite of food.

The book has already received considerable press,  the Washington Post, the Wall Street Journal, and has already sparked some controversy. (If you read the Wall Street Journal article, then the response from Allergy Moms, what do you think about Sandra's suggestion that over-protective allergy-free zones fail to help those with allergies fend for themselves in the real world? Me? I think she's right, and many in the allergy community agree that those with allergies want to be safe while those without don't want their freedom to food restricted, and Sandra helps address how both sides can better co-exist in a world where callous indifference from those not allergic, such as a chef adding a dollop of butter to potatoes, can kill those with allergies, and where those without allergies roll their eyes upon entering "Peanut-Free Zones" and mistakenly think allergies are over-hyped, but that those who are allergic don't necessarily want to be isolated and locked away in a bubble. But that's just me.)

I got to read this book on letter-size paper, before it had the fancy cover. I know Sandra. She's my friend. We studied together at American University's MFA in Literature/Creative Writing program, she was poetry, I was fiction. Rather, she is poetry, I was fiction. I always thought myself smart (I have my GRE scores and testimony from my high school AP Calculus teacher to prove it) until I met a whole new kind of smart in Sandra. The clever genius and brilliant insight that seem to come so easily for her is humbling, and if she is reading this line, I'm sure I risk exploding her ego, but there's just no dispute about her talent with words.

An excerpt: 
"I became the only kid at Haycock Elementary to carry a purse, the first of many hauled around over the years. There was the pink one with blue trim, an all-time favorite, ruined on a hot day at the funfair by a melted Jolly Rancher. There was LeSportsac, which I smugly informed my friends was 'a French label.' There was the black leather hand-me-down from my mother, still packed with musty, folded squares of Kleenexthat bore lipstick blogs. Later in life, I would look on in awe at my friends' clutches and baguettes. I have never had a purse that wasn't wide enough for an EpiPen, deep enough for an inhaler, and complete with a zippered pocket for Benadryl." (p. 11)

Check out Sandra's blog, Chicks Dig Poetry, for wisdom, humor and inside glimpses into the underworld of Washington DC, an underworld including book store controversy over a cardboard cut-out and the best places to get exotic vodka and french fries, an underworld I used to know well, albeit a different underworld of ten years ago. (Now I'm old and have a kid and live in the upper corner of DC away from finding bullet casings on my sidewalk. Sigh. I miss the city even if I'm still in it.)

the giveaway!!!!
To win a signed copy of Sandra's book,
leave a comment to this post before
Sunday July 31, midnight EST

You may share your own allergy story, weigh in on the controversy I mentioned, or just say something to the effect of "enter me" (no opinion necessary). 

the details
This contest is world wide.
Winner will be drawn randomly. 
The winner must respond within 48 hours of being notified or a new winner will be drawn.

96 comments:

  1. Thankfully we have avoided serious allergies in my family. I will never understand the people who would rather eat peanut butter than keep another human ALIVE. Sounds like an awesome book.

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  2. I would love to have a book signed!! Love your blog!!

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  3. This sounds like a good read. Even if I don't win I will still be checking this one out! I'm so glad no one in our family has food allergies! I can't imagine life without some of my favorite foods!

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  4. This book sounds both informative and funny--a perfect summer read! I would very much like to win a copy. =D

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  5. I'm so thankful that my kids don't have allergies other than apples. Anything severe that would cause their throats to close up would terrify me!

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  6. Having taught in a school that was free of any "may contain.." products; it was eye opening to me just having a child in the classroom that had peanut allergies. It was like I was his guardian to make sure no peanut products walked through that door...

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  7. Enter me! Sounds like an interesting book to read!
    Thanks for the nice giveaway!

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  8. Sounds like a great book! Thanks for the chance to win it!

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  9. Enter me! I would love to read this book as I am currently navigating the world of allergies with my boyfriend who discovers a new one every year too.

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  10. I don't have an allergy but understand the need to carry stuff around - I'm a huge geek and can't go anywhere without a book, to the point where if I think I might finish one, I have to take 2. So while a much more trivial reason, I too have yet to experience the joys of a tiny handbag and instead cripple my poor shoulders... ;)

    So of course, I'd love to win this book :)

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  11. oh man that is a long list of allergies. I thought I had it bad with dairy, and penicillin! I would love to read it though, my dairy allergy is very new (yay pregnancy) and would love some insight and humor for coping!

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  12. I would love to understand better about people who have allergies especially with food. So far, I only know people who have allergies with dust, cold weather or seafood.

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  13. I am glad that my husband is only allergic to bunnies (literally!). I would love the book though!

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  14. After the birth of my kids I have developed a couple of deadly allergies. Would love to read this book and see how she dealt with this.

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  15. This book sounds great. I suffer from allergies like soy, corn, dairy, and wheat. It is hard and some people just dont understand which does hurts. But I am trying to make the best of it and I am glad some of my family has helped me through this.It has opened their eyes to food allergies.

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  16. Hi! Enter me please. I'm allergic to latex and something I can't spell that's in hard pain killers! So my visits to any doctor or hospital are difficult! Everything has to be taken care of before I go into a room concerning latex. :/

    Ella,

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  17. This sounds like a great book! I would love-love-love to have a signed copy and to gift it to my new son-in-law who has a lot of the same allergies! Or...gift it to my daughter who has to live with him! Thank you for the opportunity to win this!

    Valerie V.

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  18. COOL AM IN!! from Kuwait :D

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  19. I thankfully don't have any allergies but I know a lot of people who do. I find it hard to remember what not to bring to their parties so I keep a little notebook with all of their allergies (and preferences to food).

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  20. Wow what a great book to help make kids more aware of other. Hope I win. Both my daughter and I can read it and then donate it to our school library. She has a classmate who is allergic to peanuts.

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  21. I would love to win this book for my sister.

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  22. I struggle with food issues and would love to read this!

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  23. Would love to win a signed book. It sounds great!!

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  24. My kid is allergic to peanuts. :( I love peanut butter!

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  25. I can't wait to read this book, I saw the review in the Washington Post this weekend. I know its hard to really understand what my daughter with allergies goes through every time she is "rewarded" at swim practice, school or parties with treats that she can't eat, but our family deals with things through humor so I know the book will be well loved in this house!

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  26. This book sounds interesting. My husband has an unusual allergy. He is allergic to chicken. It's amazing how much stuff is made with chicken stock, or fried in the same oil as chicken items.
    He's successfully navigated the food world and we've pretty much figured out what places are ok and not ok to eat at. Most people don't even know it about him because he doesn't announce it until someone makes him food and he has to explain why he can't eat their chicken casserole. Or why he brings a hamburger to every potluck dinner we go to.
    We are expecting out first child and hopefully he won't inherit food allergies from his dad. But if he does, we are prepared. :)

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  27. I am fortunate that no one in the family has serious allergies. A bee sting sent our daughter to the hospital once, but we never had a problem after that. Sounds like a great read.

    carrolls.cookies@yahoo.com

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  28. My eyes are more wide open with grandchildren than I had to be with my own children for allergies developed by the newest generation! Would enjoy the book!

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  29. My daughter and I both have food allergies. I wanted to read this book to gain insight into my daughter's world - being a kid with allergies. My one food allergy didn't pop up until I was 20. She has had them since she was an infant. I would love to win this book!

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  30. My sister Judith is allergic to everything! I call her my sister that is "allergic to the world". This book would be really cool to win!

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  31. I have so many food allergies, it is difficult for me to eat and now since I am getting older, I have some food intolerances!

    But worse is my friend's daughter who could die if she is exposed to a peanut.

    I would love to read this book!!!!

    CarolNWong(at)aol(dot)com

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  32. The 30th just happens to be *my* birthday - what a fun way to celebrate!! =)

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  33. I take away from this a broader awareness and compassion of those dealing w/ severe food allergies. I thank you for that! Wow!

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  34. Sounds interesting. What a rough road. I would love to be more enlightened on the allergy debate.

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  35. my poor father has a peanut allergy and I have almost killed him (accidentally, of course) several times over the years!
    I would love this book!

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  36. I would love to win this book!

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  37. I never had allergies as a child but developed several food allergies as an adult. What is up with THAT??

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  38. I was blessed with an allergy to all seafood, fish shellfish etc except for Tuna! Kills my family because they love their seafood! I would love to win this book and after reading it pass it on to the many friends who have allergies or have kids with allergies!

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  39. I to a small extent understand this world of allergies-- i'm allergic to food dye- which is in many foods, drinks and medicines... Thanks for the chance to win!

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  40. My heart goes out to her. It's hard enough growing up...but watchin every particle placed in your mouth, what an exhausting thing for Mom and Daughter.

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  41. Hey! I went to Haycock Elementary in VA!! Would love to read this book.

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  42. Please enter me in the drawing. Thanks.

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  43. I would love to win! I have a weird allergy: potatoes. I definitely can't eat them, and they are in so much now as filler, but raw will give me a severe reaction if you cut them near me. crazy. I know. :)

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  44. Just met a mother who has a son recently diagnosed with a number of allergies (all nuts, wheat, soy, eggs, dairy...so far). I would love to win this book for her!

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  45. I would love to win this book!

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  46. I have no allergies, and I am very thankful for that - but I would love, LOVE, to read the book.

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  47. I would love this book but actually if I won it I would probably give it to my friend who's child has life threatening allergies. I'm sure she would enjoy it :)

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  48. I'm not much of a reader but think this book would be very interesting to read :)

    (reposting because he came up as "Anonymous" even though I'm logged into my google account :P Thanks!)

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  49. Sounds like an interesting book!

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  50. Love your blog and sure love the book

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  51. I too am so tired of people being so indifferent of serious allergies. They don't seem to understand their indifference means severe consequences for those of us that have them. Can't wait to check out this book!

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  52. I am a teacher and often some of my students suffer from allergies.

    Pensoche this book will myself very useful.

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  53. WOW, and I thought my family had allergies. Will have to check this out for sure. ... Thanks for your wonderful blog!

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  54. I developed all my food allergies as an adult and have had struggles to remind people that while their dishes or desserts look divine, I might as well eat them in the ER. Sounds like a great read. Thanks for bring it to our attention!

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  55. I'm thankful that I don't have any food allergies--but I am very limited in what I can eat for other reasons!

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  56. I'm lucky - I don't have any food allergies. I AM allergic to alcohol, but that's okay, it just means that I'm the one with the blackmail material at the end of the night.

    I must admit that I never realised that allergies to dairy could be life threatening (after reading the exceprt about chefs, butter and potatoes), I thought that was more of an 'eat it and you'll be sorry so make sure there's a toilet nearby' one. The book sounds intriguing.

    BTW my best friend is a pastry chef. He says it does get irritating when he has to prepare different foods in different locations because of allergies, but he can understand that. It's the militant vegetarians (who have chosen their eating lifestyle) demanding that their food be prepared in separate rooms from any meat products that annoy him the most.

    eta: What's up with LJ tonight?

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  57. Oh... While the 'may contain' warnings on most products are useful to people who require them (and the rest of us), sometimes they go a bit too far. I mean seriously - do we REALLY need a warning on a bottle of milk that says 'may contain milk'??

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  58. I would love to win this book!

    *fingers crossed!*

    xo-Lauren

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  59. I would LOVE To win this book! :D I'm always worried about food allergies with my little girl. I'm also worried what things to pack for school as I don't want anyone suffering in the class. Its very hard. As for my food allergy its Milk. I can't drink it it makes me bloat like a big balloon and it also makes my mouth and tongue all itchy and irritated! Its horrible. :D Love to win! :D I love books!

    cozycomfycouch at live. com

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  60. I would love to have a signed book! I was fortunate to have my daughter outgrow her peanut allergy but it gave me an insight into what some people deal with every single day.

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  61. Please enter me... even if I have no allergies! :)

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  62. My son is allergic to nuts, and we have had unfortunate experience with mislabeled foods and uninformed waiters. I would love to read this book - sounds like a book we could really relate to.

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  63. I wanna win!

    hannah at nathanaeliversen dot com

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  64. thank god i don't have any food allergies, but i have a serious case of dust/pollen/ summer allergies. would love to win this book!!

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  65. Love your blog and can relate to a child carrying a purse when no one else was....

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  66. My little brother is allergic to peanuts, the big one. He's gotten much less sensitive over the years, but when he was tiny, an aunt we don't see much innocently fed him a bite of peanut butter sandwich, and he ended up in the hospital! This is also a good place to ask, I guess--is there any spread any of you can think of that mimics the taste of peanut butter but won't kill him? He's gotten curious about it lately. Thanks!

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  67. there is no alergies in our familly, and i am verry thankful of it!!
    this boouk sound like a goo bok for summer

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  68. Enter me...
    ooooh, sounds dirty LOL!

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  69. Enter me please! Sounds like a great and humorous read.

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  70. I have a few food sensitivities, but I'm lucky enough that none of them are true allergies. I can't imagine having to be that careful with that many kinds of food.

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  71. Awesome give away!! Would love it!

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  72. I've just found out I have coeliac disease after a lifetime of being told I had all sorts of fatigue/stomach issues, and even though I've been non-dairy since I was a child I'm still finding it really hard being out and about and so food-difficult. I LOVE Sandra's 2nd poetry collection, and to hear her side of the allergy-girl story would, I'm sure, put my woes in perspective, and make me feel less like a freak at the same time. Also, its my birthday on saturday, and I'm broke, and about to be thrown out of my flat, and I'd like something good for the soul, and I think this would be it. polly@atkin.org.uk

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  73. I've been lucky enough not to be allergic to anything other than excessive dust. *whew* I know many friends who are allergic to just about everything & I'm amazed they've gotten through life without dying as well!

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  74. Sounds like a great book really want to win this :) I was latose intollerant as a child and still am if I consume huge amounts in a short period of time!

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  75. I just stumbled onto your blog via The Laughing Squid. I think I am already hooked... and will definitely be trying out the coffeebean cookies!!!
    I will really love to win this book... I myself have just recently obtained a few new allergies...pollen, lychees, hay... very annoying!

    kim [dot] stamiris [at] gmail [dot] com

    K.x

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  76. How funny, I also went to Haycock elementary, although not at the same time. My daughter is allergic to nuts and I'd love to have perspective on living with allergies.

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  77. I love your blog and I would love to win this book. Thanks.

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  78. Please enter me in the drawing. Thank you.

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  79. I have many allergies but I dutifully breast fed my children so they hoprfully would not- so far, at 27 and 23, it seems to have worked- Sandra writes wonderful poetry and I'd love to have her new book!

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  80. I'm only allergic to milk, but I still have some anyway.

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  81. i love a good page turner - what a great giveaway! donna u.

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  82. My mother is allergic to all kinds of things - half of which she developed allergies to in her adult life. Now that I have a little girl, I'm hoping she'll avoid these issues, but I still want to read the book.

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  83. I would REALLY love to win your book. I NEED it! My daughter has a fatal allergic reaction to peanuts. Recently, she was given 3 epi shots in 1 day due to being in a room with a peanut, transported to hosp and is thankfully OK now.

    I called a local Italian restaurant today to ask about peanut products in any of their dishes and was told by the chef, "I cannot guarantee you what is in the products we purchase from another vendor NOR will I take the time to read to you what is in the products. Sometimes we cook in peanut oil and sometimes we don't". WHAT? I honestly couldn't believe what I just heard...

    He asked me over & over why I was calling (b/c he kept talking over top of me sarcastically and refused to listen). I asked if he even cared whether or not a child goes into anaphylactic shock and has a fatal reaction from HIS restaurant because he refused to give me the ingredients I asked for. His reply..."NO, that's not my problem...it's YOURS!" You bet your life it's my problem because I care immeasurably for the child God placed on loan to me...that's why I was calling in the first place. "HE TOLD ME TO GO SOMEWHERE ELSE & NEVER VISIT OR CALL BACK THERE AGAIN BECAUSE I WAS WASTING HIS TIME. HE THEN HUNG UP ON ME!" HOW RUDE! I would never treat my worst enemy like this much less a prospective customer of a business I owned!

    I am just dumbfounded that a restaurant owner shows such little compassion for a child's life or any other customer (allergy or not). I thought restaurants HAVE to provide ingredients. Am I wrong? I have urged my friends to boycott this restaurant and have contacted our local TV station...somebody there might find this story interesting.

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  84. Love the blog! Allergies are no joke! Sounds like a great read!

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  85. I would love to read that book! If I don't win it I will probably buy it hehe. /Emma

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